How To Make People Like You

Smiling

“Smiling really does make you seem friendlier,” so if you’re smiling, you’re more likely to get a smile back, which can set the perfect stage for a first friendly conversation."  Smiling can actualy lift your mood. So, even if you're feeling a little down that day, it's worth trying to slip on a smile--especially if it means you'll get one back. You'll make yourself feel better as well as those around you.

Be a good listener

It’s easy to feel obligated to entertain someone you’ve just met in order to win them over with your charisma and charm. “But most people are more interested in impressing you and making you laugh, Instead, focus on being an attentive, responsive listener. This is a better way to engage with someone. It lets them know that you find them interesting and fun.”

Share Something About Yourself

When you’re first getting to know someone, it’s inevitable that conversations are going to revolve around questions and answers. While it’s true you shouldn’t babble on about yourself, it’s equally frustrating for others if you also refuse to give anything away. “So, do make an effort to share something about yourself, Plus, divulging a few tantalizing tidbits about yourself – but not too much – will naturally make the other person interested and curious and likely want to see you again to find out more.

Strike the Right Pose

Fact: Your posture can be a plus or a problem. It’s something people notice right away. It indicates to others your level of interest, so let your body language do the work to let people know you’re enjoying their company. “If you’re engaged with someone, face them and lean toward them,” Nod your head, laugh when they’re funny and make eye contact to show you’re invested in what they’re saying. “Don’t hold your bag in front of you or cross your arms or legs away from them. This closes you off, making you seem unwelcoming.” The body language to avoid at all costs: “Scanning the crowd when someone is talking to you,” “This often-offensive action can make people feel like you’re bored with their conversation or searching for someone better to talk to.”

Lighten Up!

Go ahead and have a good laugh -- at yourself.  “It shows you don’t take yourself too seriously and this often instantly puts others at ease,” “And by making the other person comfortable and relaxed, they’re free to fully enjoy themselves in your presence.” The result: You quickly become a pleasure to be around, a big factor when it comes to friendship. Just be careful not to overdo itGoing overboard, like disparaging yourself, can make others feel uncomfortable. “Especially in early interactions because it makes others uncertain of how to respond Plus, you might come off as though you’re fishing for compliments.